What should moms do when their kids got a bad grade like less than B- or C? I really hope to be a reasonable mom to my kids even in front of their work sheets with 70 something grades. Nevertheless, the hope mostly turns out as a daydream. In the reality, my son’s horrible grade makes the volume of my voice increase and the never ending nagging continue toward my son, whose eyes are bursting with tears.
Today was a very day. Wednesday is the day, having the massed pile of Harry and Sean’s school stuffs. I have to check out and organize lots of sheets from their school once a week on the day. The sheets include class work sheets, on which their teachers put the grade for each work, as well as various notice sheets about school events and donations. So, I often used to be overwhelmed by the big paper pile brought with my kids on Wednesday.
Here is the today’s story. Although having expected to get the stressful school sheets, I took my sons to the swimming pool in order to give them fun under the sun of fall, which is still hot before setting. They screamed out of excitement and dove into the chilly water despite getting goose bumps. After a number of the thunder laughing, we got back home to find Harry’s bad grades on his class work sheets.
There certainly were good grades, but also I had to find lots of B-s and Cs. I thought it seems the time that Harry has to have an extra study at home on his vocabulary and language art, based on the horrible grade related to long reading topics and lots of words incorrectly spelled. However, my hot temper directly exploded when I just encountered Harry’s frown face in the negative response.
In fact, my family speaks Korean at home. Therefore, it is not surprising that my sons’ English vocabulary and comprehension levels are a little lower than the average of American of the same age. My sons might need a specific education to catch up with their friends.
Anyway, now regretting my bad action against Harry’s natural behavior as a young boy, who wants not to lose his everyday playing time because of the stupid extra home study, I am thinking I should have suggested more gently for him to do his everyday extra home study from tomorrow (of course I’m still doubt that it is possible…).
The question is how parents make their children understand and realize to do their study by themselves at the moment it needs. Above all, I know it is meaningless that children do not study by themselves but by their parents. So, I should keep retrieving that the most important thing is encouraging and leading my son to spontaneously have interest and confidence in his study, by asking his feeling and opinion, and discussing about the best way.
Thursday, October 4, 2007
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